What Is It In Bad Boys That Make Them Seem So Good?

What makes good guys different from bad boys? Naturally, good guys have all the “good” qualities that women look for in a man – gentlemanly, well-mannered, and generally a pleasure to have around. Bad boys, on the other hand, are annoying, cocky, or obnoxious – someone any level-headed woman would never think of dating.



Now, suppose you’re hooked up with a good guy in your life. He’s really good boyfriend material – he may even be showing qualities that could make him husband material. They lavish you with attention and love.



Then, out of the corner of your eye, you meet this bad boy. He’s sloppy, he’s arrogant, insensitive and mean in different levels. But most of all, he holds your attention.



So, what got you to notice this bad boy in the first place? As much as you might want to deny it, there’s always something about bad boys that’s simply attractive. Sure, good guys are well-bred and well-mannered. But these bad boys are simply irresistible.



Now, would you leave the good guy in your life behind in favor for that bad boy? Today’s media may suggest that women also fantasize about bad boys (considering they can be just as “bad” themselves), but at the same time insists that men have to be overly nice to keep women happy.



Neither assertion is quite right. Today’s media overemphasize the importance of a man’s qualities and traits as the deciding factors in a relationship – so much that it forgets the real deciding factor.



Every relationship is kindled by attraction, and the stronger this attraction is, the better the chances of a happier and longer lasting relationship. This attraction is felt subconsciously – it’s the “chemistry” that makes a couple tick with each other.



So does that mean that bad boys have more of this attraction mechanism than good guys?



Actually, it’s not so much that bad boys have more of it than good guys – it’s just that good guys have less of it. Good guys tend to dote on their women, kissing up to them and fulfilling every whim. But while women may feel good being around good guys, it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re attracted to them.



It’s actually quite simple – we just enjoy the things hard-to-get in life more than the things we experience everyday. And bad boys offer such a fresh relationship experience that women find it more attractive than being with nicer guys.



Of course, it doesn’t mean that men have to be arrogant or self-centered to be attractive. Being attractive is not determined by the intensity of goodness or badness in men. As mentioned before, the “chemistry” felt between a man and a woman is more important than how nice or bad an individual is.



Do you have a good guy as a friend – basically someone who has all the qualities that would make a great lifelong companion, but at the same time someone you don’t feel you’re attracted to? I’m sure you do. And if he wonders why he isn’t having much luck with the women in his life, well… now you know what to tell him.

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Aaron Adams specialises in relationship matters for women. Visit http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com to find out how to attract and keep the man you like.

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