A True Relationship Or Simply A Rebound

If you have just gotten out of a relationship you are likely a bit raw emotionally and very vulnerable. Many of us think that the best thing we can do for ourselves is jump right into another relationship, but generally speaking this is not a good idea.

You shouldn't intentionally get involved in another relationship until you believe that you are over the person that you have broken up with. Unfortunately, many of us find ourselves involved with another person quite quickly and the we are left wondering if what we are experiencing is a true relationship or simply a rebound.

Of course, you may not be the only person in the new relationship that is wavering between having it be a rebound or a relationship. The person that you are dating may also be in this position, and you may not even know about it. Do you really want to be someone's rebound? It doesn't sound all that romantic, but it's better to know what the situation is going in than it is to find out later that the person was simply using you as a means of recovery from a past relationship.

Is it a Rebound?
If you don't know whether this is a rebound or a relationship you aren't alone. It can be confusing when you have a lot of emotions running through you. What you should do is be very open with the person that you have begun dating. Let them know that you have just gotten out of a relationship or that you aren't quite recovered from a past heartbreak. At least when you do this both parties are informed and know that they may not be getting into a long lasting relationship.

The best advice you could follow if you aren't sure that what you are experiencing is a relationship or a rebound is to move slowly. Do not try to pick up where you left off in your past relationship. Instead, take the dating process slowly and really get to know the person. You may find that when you do this that the person is a great addition to your life but cannot fill the voids left by the other person, which isn't always a bad thing. Or, you may find that the person does not fit into your life at all and you just need to take the relationship for what it is, someone to have fun with for awhile.

Rebounding is natural. We want to feel good about ourselves and we want to get back out there. The best thing you can do for yourself is avoid jumping into another relationship. Give yourself time to hurt and also time to heal, this take some time, but if you give yourself this time you will have a better chance of having positive relationships in the future.

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Rodrigo Rehn is a Relationships Expert, Linux Systems Administrator, Web Programmer, PHP Developer and CEO of FaceRomance online dating for singles.

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