A Woman Must Have Children to Be a Surrogate Mother

Becoming a traditional or gestational surrogate mother and helping another couple complete their family is a wonderful and joyous process. Most healthy women who have had relatively easy pregnancies can qualify to become a surrogate mother, so long as they themselves are already mothers.

Every woman who is being considered as a surrogate mother must have had at least one healthy live birth. This rule is extremely important, and a childless woman will not be considered for surrogacy. There are three main reasons for this.

1.Proven pregnancies
Surrogacy is extremely expensive for the intended parents. They must pay for all of the expenses of the pregnancy in addition to the fertility treatments, lawyers fees, agencies, and surrogate's fees. These fees can run into the tens of thousands of dollars, if not more.

A woman who has not previously given birth is an unknown risk. She could have infertility problems of her own that she has not realized yet. She could have trouble carrying the child. Because of this expense and the fact that nothing is known about this woman's ability to carry and deliver children, no intended parent, surrogacy agency, or IVF clinic is willing to take that chance.

2.Unsure emotions
A woman who has not previously given birth may find herself dealing with unexpected emotions when it comes time to deliver and relinquish the surrogate baby. These emotions may happen even with a self-confident woman who has no desire to parent a child anytime soon.

That is not to say that the woman would have any legal ability to keep the child, but it could prove to be a very upsetting situation for both the surrogate mother and her intended parents. Women who already have their own children are able to go home to those children.

Sometimes surrogates are upset, unexpectedly, when it comes time for the birth of the baby. But those with children of their own are able to receive comfort with this fact.

3.Anything can happen
Not only does a woman who is considering becoming a surrogate mother need to have her own children, she also needs to be completely done with her family. She should not desire to have any more children in the future.

A surrogate pregnancy is just like any other pregnancy. Occasionally, something may happen that will cause the surrogate mother to be unable to ever carry another child.

This is a sad situation when it happens to a surrogate mother who has completed her family. It is horribly tragic if it happens to one who is not finished having her own children. It has happened more than once that a surrogate mother has turned into an intended mother, needing the help of another surrogate to complete her family at a later date.

For a woman who has never given birth before, to be unable to ever carry your own children due to the fact that you decided to help another family first, this can be devastating. Even if the woman is not planning ever to have her own children, time has a way of changing one's mind.

Though wanting to become a surrogate mother for another couple is a noble and generous thing to do, a woman must have her own children first. It is simply a bad idea to do otherwise.

About the Author

Rayven Perkins is an author and two-time surrogate mother. To find out more information on surrogacy or how to become a traditional or gestational surrogate mother, please see her site Information on Surrogacy Qualifications

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